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|Posted on 14 August, 2018 at 20:20||comments (0)|
It’s not a competition.
It’s so hard not to feel competitive with other Moms.
Some kids are learning Japanese and mine are over here licking the refrigerator. I have so many days when I think they are so ahead of the curve and I’m nailing it, and other days I’m hoping they have a nice cell mate in their prison block who will remind them to call me.
The truth is, no one is nailing it. We’re all doing our best, trying to keep the kids alive for another day.
Moms don’t need to one up each other. Moms need to embrace each other. All this comparing robs joy and distorts from the ‘being enough moments’ and beauty of motherhood. And often creates a culture of aloneness and feeling like one doesn’t measure up.
No one is more lonely than a Mom in the middle of the night who feels like she doesn’t know what the fuck she’s doing and doesn’t even recognise herself anymore.
You’re still in there, you’re just a little rough around the edges right now and that’s ok.
I started listening to a funny podcast about movies (nothing to do with motherhood) and it reminded me how to laugh and enjoy things, during a time in my life when I didn’t think I’d ever enjoy anything again.
We all have things we love to do, try to remind yourself of some of those things every now and again.
You will keep fucking up.
You will keep nailing it.
You will fall.
You will rise.
You will find yourself again, and when you do, you will have some awesome kids by your side who want to know what your third favourite dinosaur is, and will just devour everything about you because you are so amazingly larger than life to them.
And that’s pretty fucking cool.
|Posted on 6 August, 2018 at 21:05||comments (0)|
Six great reasons you should teach your child to Sign with Mellow Baby
If you are a parent of a baby or toddler (or currently pregnant) you probably have heard of “baby signing.” But why would you want to use sign language with your child? Sign Language has so many benefits, which is why it’s so great for babies and children of all ages to learn it.
It is important to consider simplified baby signing as the use of gestures rather than ‘a language’. A language would have a host of grammatical rules and expressions attached to it. Even if parents don't train their baby too use symbolic gestures, it is likely babies will naturally use them anyway. For example, pointing at something they are asking about, tugging at their sweater if they wish to take it off, etc. Understanding baby gestures can improve communication and make parents more sensitive to what their babies are thinking about. This can have profound benefits. When parents are more tuned into their baby’s thoughts and feelings, babies are more likely to develop secure attachment relationships.
There are many benefits of teaching sing language to your child. I’ve outlined 6 of them for you here;
1. Sign language provides the ability to communicate earlier than speech
You probably already know that babies and toddlers are able to understand far more than they can express. Receptive language skills, what they can understand, develop earlier than expressive language skills, or what they can say. In fact, the motor skills and auditory perceptual skills needed to articulate speech are simply not developed enough to produce words until around 10-12 months of age (give or take) and then they continue to develop for years.
2. Earlier communication can decrease tantrum behaviour
Many early tantrums in toddlers are often a result of their inability to communicate their wants and needs effectively. By giving your child the gift of sign language as an early communication tool, you may see a decrease in tantrum behaviour as he will be able to communicate to you more effectively than with speech and gesture alone. I, for one, would do anything to avoid the grocery store meltdown!
3. Teaching sign language to your child may increase your child’s vocabulary and language skills
When you are teaching your child sign language, you will find yourself saying the name of the sign out loud many, many times as you show your child the sign. You will find yourself talking a lot about the items you are teaching. For example, when you see a dog walk by you may stop, get down at your child’s level, and say (as you are signing dog) “Johnny! Do you see the DOG? It’s a D-O-G (as you continue to sign) See the DOG? Look, DOG (as you sign again)” You will find yourself talking about things more and repeating things more than if you were not teaching your child sign. This repetition, both auditory and visually, may help to expand your child’s receptive and expressive vocabulary and language skills.
In addition to the increased verbal repetition that sign often provides, it also provides language opportunities in a tactile, kinesthetic, and visual modality. Presenting vocabulary and language in a modality other than only verbal increases the child’s ability of learning.
4. Teaching sign language to your child may increase your child’s reading and spelling skills and even IQ
There is research to support that hearing children who are taught sign language from an early age have better reading and spelling skills and yes, even higher IQ scores down the road.
5. Teaching sign language to your child may increase your child’s visual attention skills and joint attention skills
Using and understanding sign language requires a child to utilize his visual and joint attention skills, both of which are very important skills in both learning and social interactions. It’s also great to learn from an early age, that eye contact and attention are so important when someone is trying to communicate with you. If you extend that courtesy with them, they will be more likely to practice it themselves.
6. Teaching sign language to your child is So. Much. Fun!
Honestly? It is so much fun teaching sign language to your child. Mellow Baby uses music and puppets - what else do you need to know? The babies love it. Even if you are not as excited about the benefits and functionality of signing, it’s such a great way to have fun and try something new. But the fact that they are secretly gaining all of the benefits is win-win.
|Posted on 23 July, 2018 at 21:05||comments (0)|
Massage can get your little one to sleep better, improve her health, and even help you form that all-important bond.
You know how it goes: You put your baby down, she cries. Pick her up and, presto -- she's serene and smiley again. If just holding your baby can be so soothing, imagine how she'll benefit from a full-body massage? In fact, studies have shown that massaging your wee one can reduce crying and fussiness, help her sleep more peacefully, and alleviate common wail-inducers like constipation and colic. Some say that it even boosts a baby's ability to fight off germs.
"When you give your baby a massage, you're stimulating his central nervous system," says Tiffany Field, PhD, director of the Touch Research Institute at the University of Miami School of Medicine. "That sets off a chain reaction: It makes his brain produce more serotonin, a feel-good chemical, and less cortisol, a hormone that's secreted in response to stress. As a result, your baby's heart rate and breathing slow down, and he becomes more relaxed.”
Not only does it have physical benefits, but giving your infant regular massages is good for his emotional well-being too. Affectionate touch and rhythmic movement are among the most powerful forms of communication between babies and their parents. It will help you learn how to read your baby's signals and respond better to his unique needs, which can give you so much confidence as a new parent.
To me, the main benefit of massage is about connecting, I know that sounds a bit hokey, but it starts when they are small and it goes well beyond the new-born stage. My 4 ½ year old loves having a massage, as does my 2-year-old. The massage has changed over the years but it is rooted in all the basics I learned when I first took them to a massage class many moons ago. Massage time still provides all the benefits it always has. Time to connect and be with each other. Time to shut out the rest of the world, put down the cell phone and be in the moment - just you and your baby.
Mellow Baby was started 2 years ago, in Edinburgh Scotland, and I have now returned to my home town of Ottawa with my family and I can’t wait to start sharing my Baby Massage classes with the community. My first block of classes starts at the end of September and there will be more to follow. Please check out my website and Facebook page to find out when new classes open up. Or better yet, drop me an email; [email protected]
Mellow Baby founder and workshop leader